Inspired by David Schnarch
the world-renown sex and marital therapist, and international best-selling author
„The real power of hugging till relaxed comes in realizing that it's both a window offering a clear view of the level of differentiation in your relationship and a useful tool for developing more differentiation. It's a perfect example of using touch to grow yourself up by learning to enjoy togetherness and separateness (...)
Differentiation is your ability to stand on your own two feet, physically and emotionally, when you are close to others. It allows you to stay close while your partner 'bounces off the wall.' If you can quiet yourself while your partner is flooding with anxiety, you don't have to move away or make him or her feel differently in order to control your own emotions. You can stay near - all you need to do is calm yourself down..“
Dr. David Schnarch
On 9th April 2011 Martina, Dhyan and Luna from the ANANDA Team took part in a very inspiring workshop with David Schnarch in Bochum. From this and from his books we get important impulses for our work with couples in massages and coachings.
"Readers sick of glossy-magazine self-help patter about reigniting romance, or the droning pomposity of most author-experts, will be pleasantly surprised with psychologist and sex therapist Schnarch (Passionate Marriage). He immediately catches readers' attention by agreeing that the common "just do it" approach to solving sexual problems is not only ineffective, but often results in one partner responding with a decisive 'Don't tell me what to do!' That kind of understanding produces a number of unexpected bombshells--including 'Marriage does kill desire'--which produce an uncanny effect: getting couples to stop and reconsider their emotions, quit blaming each other, and start to thing (and act) differently regarding sexual situations, behaviors and attitudes...breaks down complex issues with loosely-drawn real life examples, illustrating the dramatic and fundamental changes that occur when couples have a greater understanding of desire, monogamy and the brain. The process is neither easy nor quick, but Schnarch's confidence is contagious."
-- Publisher's Weekly Starred Review --
>> Sex In Relationships Survey on David Schnarchs Website
>> Radio interview part 1 with David Schnarch (free)
>> Radio interview part 1 with David Schnarch (free)
Tipp: the new book >> order "Intimacy and Desire" at amazon.de
offers for couples at ANANDA:
>> ANANDA couplesmassage
>> ANANDA Ritual for three
>> ANANDA coaching (guidance for partners massage)
